Tag: Relationships

How Attachment Styles Affect Anger

Attachment theory, first developed by John Bowlby and expanded upon by Mary Ainsworth, provides a framework for understanding how early relationships shape emotional regulation and interpersonal dynamics. When individuals develop insecure attachment styles—such as anxious, avoidant, or fearful-avoidant attachment—they often experience difficulties in relationships, including struggles with anger. Read on to learn how attachment styles …

What Anger is Telling You

Anger is often seen as a negative emotion, but it serves an important purpose. It acts as an internal alarm system, signaling that something needs attention. Whether it’s a boundary being crossed, an unmet need, or an old wound resurfacing, anger is rarely just about the present moment. Learn what anger is telling you. Understanding …

How to Deal with Controlling People

If the controller is not able to understand your autonomy and personal point of view then you may be able to make a list of things you would change about them. Also make a list of things that you have done specifically for them (without pointing it out) since controlling people are also often playing tit-for-tat. This comes from excessive self-focus and leads them to only keep track of things they’ve done for others in a very miserly manner.

Insoluble Differences in a Relationship

One of the paradoxes in relationships is that the very qualities that initially draw people to each other can later become sources of tension. Psychologists refer to this as “attraction of opposites”. In the early stages of a relationship, partners often view each other’s differences through the lens of fascination and admiration. Over time, however, …

Top Needs of the Anxious Preoccupied Attachment

The anxious-preoccupied attachment style is one of the four primary attachment styles identified in attachment theory. Individuals with this style often experience heightened anxiety in their relationships, stemming from deep-seated fears of abandonment and a pervasive need for reassurance. Understanding their triggers, needs, and core wounds is crucial not only for the individual but also …

Communication Styles in Relationships

Understanding the interplay between gender differences in communication and attachment styles can greatly enhance relationship dynamics. Communication styles in relationships have an important role to play. Here’s a synthesis of how these factors influence interactions in heterosexual relationships. Communication Styles and Gender 1. Women: – Tend to use more indirect, emotionally expressive language. – Often …

Best Date Ideas in NYC

Dating can become more of a second job if you’re not careful. How can you keep the experience fun and fresh? What are the best date ideas in NYC? Read on to find out. BEST DATE IDEAS IN NYC 1. Stroll Through Central Park One of the most iconic spots in New York City, Central …

Why Neediness is Unattractive

We all have needs. We all need others in order to get our needs met. These needs should be expressed and honored when possible and depending on the nature of the relationship. However, in any relationship, whether romantic, platonic, or professional, certain behaviors can either nurture or strain the connection between individuals. One of the …

The Push Pull Loop in Fearful Avoidant Attachment

Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby, describes how individuals form emotional bonds and how these bonds influence behavior and relationships. Among the four primary attachment styles—secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—the fearful-avoidant attachment style is particularly complex. Also known as disorganized attachment, the fearful-avoidant style is characterized by a mix of anxiety and avoidance, leading to …

The Difference Between a Dismissive Avoidant Woman and Man

Dismissive avoidant attachment is one of the four primary attachment styles identified in attachment theory, alongside secure, anxious-preoccupied, and fearful-avoidant (also known as disorganized). Those with a dismissive avoidant attachment style often value independence and self-sufficiency, sometimes at the expense of close relationships. They might downplay the importance of emotional connections and may have deep-rooted …